There's one piece of dating advice that I never want to hear ever again: "If he wanted to, he would."
It's that statement, uttered in a matter-of-fact tone with a shrug, that's all over TikTok at present. And hearing it as I swipe through my For You Page makes me want to hurl my phone out of the nearest window.
Don't get me wrong, there's definitely a lot of truth to that line. And I'm in no doubt that the intentions behind imparting this nugget of advice are honourable. But, my question is: is it actually helpful? And is it always so simple?
We've all had moments where we needed a cold hard dose of reality to help us move on from someone who wasn't matching our energy, and wasn't treating us the way we'd like to be treated. When it comes to situations like that, this kind of dating advice can be helpful, if delivered in the right way. But there are also times when someone you really like or love pulls away from you and the last thing you need to hear is that it's because they didn't feel any desire to pursue you. Talk about rubbing salt in the wound. Read more...More about Dating, Culture, Sex Relationships, and Web Culture